Enneagram Type 9
Enneagram 9s- Mediators. Peacemakers. 9s’ primary motivation is to have harmony in life. They are likable, diplomatic, friendly and masters of going with the flow. 9s are practical and do not crave a spotlight. They strive to avoid conflict, which can create a false sense of peace.
The shadow side of 9 can be slow to act, not because they are over-thinking, but because they are paralyzed in doubt of their own abilities and don’t want to stir the pot. 9s can be seen as lazy because they are slow to move if the desired goal is hard to reach or requires some conflict. Thus, 9s have a hard time getting out of their own way. The danger of this behavior is that they never fully meet their potential. In this capacity, they merge with others’ direction, stances and feelings, instead of honoring themselves. Because of this, 9s can deeply harbor anger, but unlike other members of the Body Center of Intelligence, do not externalize it until they’re pushed too far, although it does create stubbornness and passive aggression.
In childhood, 9s felt unseen and were told what to do and how to do it, never being valued for their own ideas or opinions. However, 9 children are often quietly nurturing - seeking out those who need peace the most. In this capacity, 9s could be considered the sweetest number on the Enneagram.
Wing of 1 (the Perfectionist/Reformer) creates a strong Negotiator, and Wing of 8 (the Challenger/Boss) creates a strong Advisor. 9s are members of the Gut triad, meaning their responses and decision making comes more instinctually to them (as opposed to emotionally [Heart] or thoughtfully [Head]). In stress, 9s lean into shadow 6 (Loyalist/Questioner), steeped in self doubt, and borderline paranoia, paralyzed in decision making. In support, 9s lean into 3 (the Performer/Achiever) believing in themselves, being decisive, and executing beautifully.
Common occupations of Enneagram 9s include (but are not limited to) Counselors, Therapists, Mediators, Diplomats, Architects, Social Workers, Librarians, Veterinarians, and HR. Quite the spread!
Remember - this is the tip of the iceberg, folks. Enneagram 9s make great friends and loving parents. Support them in conflict and make them feel seen.
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